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5 Ways to Find Consolation by Remembering the Afflicted

We all face tough times. It may be losing a job, dealing with health issues, or feeling lonely, unsatisfied longing for materialistic things. But, have you ever thought about the meaningful things that you have in your life? You might feel better by thinking about and helping others who are struggling too. Let’s see how this can work. 

Emotional healing is important during difficult times. When you help others, it not only makes a difference in their lives but also helps you heal emotionally. It shifts your focus from your own challenges to the positive impact you can have on someone else’s life. This act of kindness and support can bring a sense of fulfillment and peace, reminding you of the meaningful connections and joys you have in your own life.

Listening To Your Heart

One of the best things you can do is really listen to others when they are dealing with suffering.  This means not just hearing their words, but trying to understand their feelings. When you do this, you often realize you’re not alone in your problems.  

“Look around you, to the right and to the left. Do you not see the

afflicted and the unfortunate? In every house there is mourning and

upon every cheek run tears.”

To practice this kind of listening:

  • Give the person your full attention
  • Don’t interrupt or judge
  • Ask questions to understand better
  • Show you care through your body language

Understanding Others’ Feelings

History is full of people who faced huge problems but kept going, comforting the afflicted. Their stories can inspire us.

Take Nelson Mandela, for instance. He spent 27 years in prison but didn’t give up hope. He went on to become South Africa’s president and worked for peace and equality.

What can you learn from such stories? They show that:

  • Difficult times don’t last forever
  • It’s possible to stay strong even when things seem hopeless
  • Our challenges can sometimes lead to positive change

Analyze how these lessons can be adapted to your life. Maybe you can write down a motto from someone you admire and look at it when times are tough. 

“You are not alone in your troubles, which are few compared to those of others. How many sick people remain bedridden for years while suffering from unspeakable pain?”

Seeing Problems in a Different Angle

Being kind to others can make both you and them feel better. It can be something small..

Some simple acts of kindness you could try:

  • Brighten someone’s day with a smile as you pass by.
  • Send a supportive message to a friend
  • Help a neighbor with a chore

Think back to a time when someone was unexpectedly kind to you. How did it make you feel? Doing the same for others can bring that good feeling to both of you.

“Life can be peaceful, the body in good health, wealth abundant, and children healthy; and yet in only a matter of days, poverty, death, separation, and sickness can all take their place.”

Helping Others Helps You Feel Better

Helping out or supporting a charity you care about can make you feel good and give your life more meaning. It also helps you find consolation and see your own problems from a new perspective.

Helping others can lower your stress and make you happier. It shows us that we can make a positive change, even when other things in life feel tough. 

Here are a few ways to help:

  • Volunteer at a local food bank
  • Join a beach clean-up
  • Raise money for a charity you like
  • Find something you enjoy that fits into your schedule.

And you dwelt in the dwellings of men who wronged themselves, and it was clear to you how We had dealt with them. And We put forth many parables for you.” (Qur’an 14:45)

This verse reminds the importance of reflecting on the consequences of your actions and learning from the examples set forth in parables. Helping others through tutoring or mentoring students in need, and donating goods or clothing to shelters or organizations can not only lower your stress but increase happiness. 

Getting Stronger Through Compassion

Taking time to notice the good things in your life, even small ones, can improve your mood and outlook.

Try this: Each day, write down three things you’re grateful for. They can be as simple as a warm cup of coffee or a text from a friend. Studies have shown that people who regularly practice gratitude are happier and more resilient when facing challenges.

To make this a habit:

  • Keep a gratitude journal
  • Share one thing you’re thankful for at dinner each night
  • Take a moment before bed to think of three good things from your day

Finding spiritual comfort and becoming a comforter of the afflicted can also provide you solace during difficult times.


Remember, emotional healing and finding consolation by thinking of others isn’t about ignoring your own feelings. It’s about connecting with your shared human experiences and finding strength in supporting each other.

Why not choose one of these ideas to try today? Maybe start with a small act of kindness or reaching out to really listen to a friend. Small steps can lead to big changes in how you face life’s challenges.

As the saying goes, “We rise by lifting others.” By remembering and helping those who are also struggling, you can find comfort and strength for your own journeys.

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