Have you ever felt like you need to hide your originality in order to fit in? Many struggle with the feeling that they have to be like everyone else and hide what makes them special. But the truth is, “Your originality is your greatest asset”. Being a mimic leads to artificiality, unhappiness, and a loss of your true self. Consider this: from Adam to the last born baby, no two individuals are exactly the same in appearance. So, why try to be the same in mannerisms and tastes?
You are unique. None had been like you in the past and none shall be like you in the future. You are totally different from X or Y. So, do not force yourself into blind following and imitating others. Go forth according to your own nature and disposition.
“Each group knew its own place for water.” (Qur’an 2: 60)
The most fulfilling path is to boldly embrace your distinctive qualities, individual quirks, and passions. Leading an authentic life that celebrates your uniqueness allows you to achieve self-confidence, creativity, and purpose. Here are five ways of embracing uniqueness and leading a fulfilling life true to who you really are.
Find Your Core Values
Your values come from who you are, what you’ve been through, and what you believe in. Connecting with these values help you to make decisions that move you toward authentic self-expression. Ask yourself things like “What’s most important to me?” or “What do I believe in?” Figuring out your top core values helps you make choices that align with your true self. Living according to your values keeps you focused on what really matters to you. It’s about following what you believe in rather than meeting the demands of others or conforming to social expectations.
Express your unique abilities
Each of you have unique talents and abilities that make you special. It helps you in finding your own voice. Explore various creative modes such as art, writing, music, photography, dance, or any form of self-expression that allows your inner creativity to flow freely. Let’s say you’ve painted a beautiful landscape, but you’re unsure about it. Instead of keeping it to yourself, you can share it with your friends who appreciate art. They might point out how the sunlight through the trees adds richness to the painting or how the contrasting colors create a sense of vibrancy. Sharing creative works lets you express your passion/perspective and allows you to live a fulfilling and authentic life.
“Be as you were created and do not change your voice or modify your walk. Cultivate your personality, but do not render your existence void by imitating others and by depriving yourself of your individuality.”
Set healthy boundaries
Start by identifying the top 5 priority areas where you want to set boundaries. Maybe you need more time for self-care like saying no to extra work projects to make space for exercise and relaxation. For example, you could set boundaries around the amount of time you want to spend on social media or the amount of time you want to spend on work. Once you have established your boundaries, make sure to stick to them and don’t allow others to neglect them. Remind yourself why you set those boundaries and why they are important to you. Journal about how you feel about setting boundaries and refer back to it when needed.
Explore unconventional skills:
When you try out different talents that aren’t the usual ones, it lets you explore your creativity to the maximum. Instead of sticking to the same old hobbies or skills that everyone expects, try to do things that really excite you, even if they’re a bit unconventional. Think about creative activities you’ve always been curious about but haven’t tried yet, like soap making, beatboxing, clowning, or bonsai tree cultivation. Give yourself the chance to explore those interests you’ve been holding back on. Trying out these unusual hobbies might bring unexpected joy. Get ready to show the world how wonderfully unique you are.
Self Reflection:
Try to take a moment to think about how you feel and what’s going on in your mind and heart, just like when you look inside yourself. By pausing and asking yourself questions like “How am I feeling today?” or “What do I want to improve?”, you can learn more about yourself. For example, let’s say you had a busy day at school, college, or work. Instead of rushing to the next thing, take a moment to reflect. Maybe you realize you felt stressed because you didn’t take any breaks. This insight can help you plan better for tomorrow, maybe scheduling short breaks throughout the day. Self-reflection is a way to understand yourself better and make positive changes in your life.
To Wrap Up:
Embracing uniqueness starts with recognizing your core values and passions. Your tastes and preferences are specific to you, you should stay true to yourself, as that is how you were created. As the Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) said: ‘And let no one among you be an imitator of others.’
Express your uncommon interests through creative activities or by setting strong boundaries. Your beauty and value lie in preserving your natural state. Keep doing what makes you happy. Surround yourself with people who understand and support you. And most importantly, celebrate every little success on your journey to living an authentic life.
